Finding a Godly wife or husband in our contemporary world can be daunting. God
from biblical times of creation made Adam and Eve without any
disequilibrium in His plan for us. It’s a one man – one woman affair.
One of the biggest obstacles I have seen in is the health
issues of intending marriage partners.
We have seen relationships with
prospects crumble when intending marriage partners undertake a voluntary
medical test to ascertain their health status prior to marriage. Though
it is a condition sine qua non to marriage especially in Churches, it is
not the intention of any of them to sour any relationship. These are
issues that have tendencies to break marriages in a future. However, a broken
courtship is better than a broken marriage. Some intending partners will
simply walk away at the disclosure of their fiancé’s status. Be it HIV,
Hepatitis, Tuberculosis, etc. though they can be terminal in nature,
sometimes it becomes unacceptable with the departing party.
When such a situation happens, the other party is left with no option
than to move on in search of another person who will however understand
their state of health and still consider him/her for marry. In this
article, I explore possible means through which any man or woman can
adopt to find a life-partner in Nigeria in the barest minimum time-frame
– as little as seven days which are as follows:
1.)
Talk to
the Pastor or any elder in your local church with whom you have a close
relationship with whom your privacy is guaranteed, express your heart-felt desire in meeting a suitable
person for a marriage relationship.
2.)
If you have a doctor or health-care professional attending to your
health-care need, confide in him/her about your genuine desire to find a
life-partner. Here, you should not be biased about the health status of
the people you meet.
3.)
If you
are HIV positive, you need be careful about disclosing your status to
just anyone you meet newly. At this point you may consider confiding your genuine
interest in finding a life-partner in any family member who has
fore-knowledge of your health-status.
4.)
You can
look out for online dating websites dedicated to HIV positive people
online with reliable track records of matching people with your kind of
situation in your city or country. The watch-word here is absolute
privacy. They will do everything possible to protect your privacy and
identity in the process of helping you find a life-partner. It can be
daunting but this is their job. Do not panic for anything because they
are experienced in such service.
5.) Find a match-making consultant to
speak with regularly at the instance of meeting new persons on the
subject of marriage, so they can guide you through the relationship till
your wedding day.
6.) Pick up Christian books on the
subject of marriage to prepare yourself towards a successful Christian
relationship ahead of your wedding and marriage life.
7.) A Pastor, other clergymen or
trained marriage counselors in your local church can equally play this
guidance role to help you succeed in this journey. Absolute secrecy is
not advisable here as marriage is a life long journey.
By
Brandon E. is a relationship counselor with Spouse Garden. We
have helped many around the world find life-partners. –
http://www.spousegarden.com , A Marriage Agency based in Lagos,
Nigeria, West Africa. +2348099187505.
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